How many times in your life have you been told you are “too much” of something. If you are anything like me you’ve heard it a lot. Sometimes I am too girly, too passionate, too open, too bubbly, too over the top…too this, too that. Sound familiar?
When someone says you are “too much” of something, what they are really saying is that you are not enough of something else. Maybe you aren’t thin enough, serious enough, funny enough…whatever it may be. Pleasing people is exhausting. I grew tired of it. If you are in the practice of pleasing people, I know you’re tired too.
Anytime I feel like I’m too much of something or not enough of another, I am reminded of exactly who I am and to Whom I belong. You see, my identity is not based off of anyone’s perception or opinion of me. My identity is in the One who created me, the One who rescued me, the One who loves me recklessly and unconditionally. I’m enough. Just as I am. All my quirks, all my bruises, all my scars. Everything.
This does not mean that I’m perfect and that there aren’t areas of which I could improve upon (ahem, patience and self control.) (That tub of ice cream tasted so good in the moment though…) It does mean however, that I am confident in the fact that I was created and specifically designed by my Creator for a purpose.
My identity is secure because I am a daughter of the King! How great is that? How beautiful is it that I can stand here in confidence and proudly proclaim that I am not defined by the what others think of me, the items I possess, the money in my bank account, or any other material thing. I am simply me. I am defined by WHO I AM because of WHO HE IS!
So who are you? What does God desire from you? What is your purpose? Discovering your purpose is something that I believe to be constant and ever changing. Something that blooms, blossoms and grows with time and experience. Think of something you enjoy doing, one thing you’re good at and consider the journey you’ve been on. If you’re like me and don’t really know what you’re good at, do what I did: Ask a friend or family member. Sooner or later, maybe with a little help and a lot of prayer, you’ll find out your purpose. Once you figure that out, it’s your responsibility to not only accept it but embrace it and live it out.
Embracing who we are isn’t always rainbows and butterflies, however. In fact, it can be really, really hard. It may mean we have to embrace things that we think others don’t like or do things that make us uncomfortable. It may also mean letting go of an old dream or vision we had for ourselves. We don’t always appreciate or accept the gifts we’ve been given. We look at God and ask Him for something else, ANYTHING else other than the one uniquely incredible attribute, talent or gift we’ve been given. Please know that He made you the way you are for a reason. When you reject who you are, you are rejecting a gift. Embracing the person you were designed to be is endorsing God’s plan and purpose for you.
There are so many lies that the enemy will use to distract you from this purpose. Don’t believe them. You wont always please people. That’s okay.
You are gifted. You matter. You have a beautiful, one of a kind purpose. You are not too much of anything, you are more than enough. Now go out and shine like He intended you to do.