Dear Single Mom

Dear Single Mom,

I know you’re tired. I know you’re overwhelmed. I know that sometimes you don’t know how you are going to make it through the next day or sometimes even the next hour. Just breathe.

I know you never asked for this. This is not the life you pictured for yourself or your oh, so precious baby boy or girl. Beautiful, jaded single mom, I know you have lost faith in so many things-especially men. You’re done with being hurt, lied to, cheated on, disappointed, disrespected and abandoned. You’ve built up walls of protection around your heart. You don’t depend on anyone other than yourself. You don’t feel like you can.

Maybe you’re working two jobs; maybe more, maybe less. You’re doing your best to balance it all. Somehow it never seems like enough. Your to do list is growing and your wallet is shrinking. It’s not easy wearing two sets of shoes on one set of feet but here you are… and you’re not just walking, you’re sprinting. You don’t have a choice. There isn’t enough time in one day. There never is.

Your heart is either breaking or has been broken–but here you are pushing through it. There isn’t anyone to pick up the pieces so you pick them up yourself. You pick yourself up every day and fight to be the best person for your child. You are so strong, single mom, but oh, how sometimes you just desperately want to be weak in someone else’s arms.

I know you, because sweet, single mother; I am you. I’ve been you since my sweet baby boy was just three weeks old. I know what it’s like to feel unwanted, abandoned, heartbroken, helpless, overwhelmed and alone. I know what it’s like to feel like your world is upside down and spinning out of control.

I felt like I had lost complete control of my life. Let’s face it, I did. But something so incredible happened once I finally accepted that loss of control. I gained freedom. I gained peace.

In a time of so many unanswered questions, I was free from having to know all the answers. To this day, there are still things I do not know and many things of which I cannot control. That’s okay. Do you know why? It’s because I’ve come to know the One who does.

You see, you don’t have to do this on your own. Honestly, you don’t. A man has let you down but there is someone who loves you. There is someone who died for you (yes, you). His arms are open wide. He’s waiting patiently.

I know it’s so hard to trust, I know it’s so hard to be vulnerable, but His word is good. It is so good. He’s ready for you to take off your armor. It’s heavy wearing that every day isn’t it? I know it is. He’s ready to take that for you. He’s ready to take the burden you’re carrying on your shoulders. He’s ready for you to fall into His arms and to be weak so that He can be your strength. You aren’t alone. You feel like it, I know you do, but you’re not.

It’s never going to be easy. The bills aren’t going to pay themselves. I understand, trust me I do. If you trust Him, I mean if you really trust, listen and walk with Him, I can promise you that He will always provide. It may look different from what you initially anticipated but He will.

You may feel forgotten or unloved; you aren’t. You may not feel worthy; you are. You may feel like you’ve run out of chances; you haven’t. He’s here to help heal your wounded, tired heart. He’s here to give you peace, love and joy so that in turn, you can share that peace, love and joy with that precious little one of yours.

A single mother who walks with Jesus will never raise her child alone. Please know that. You are so, so loved, dear one. Never forget that.


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