Contentment is not complacency. Being “Fearlessly flawed” does not mean simply settling for some lackluster, less than God’s best version of ourselves. Being fearlessly flawed means addressing your flaws, your bruises, your “baggage”, and fearlessly facing them dead on. It means looking at yourself in the mirror, addressing all the scary bits and pieces by name and proudly declaring that they don’t define you. It means understanding that you have been granted the incredible liberty to use these specific and sometimes messy experiences as a tool to learn and grow. What the devil intended to be a ditch or a grave has now become simply a bump or a hill (okay or maybe sometimes a mountain…) Either way, you aren’t getting stuck there. You refuse to be. You refuse to settle for complacency or temporary gratification. It means that in spite of whatever you trip over, in spite of any struggle or adversity, you still show up for battle and fight to follow Him.
This will involve you throwing your hands up and humbly admitting that you don’t have it all together and yet still striving to be more like the One who does. Sometimes this means that life will be really, really hard.
In a culture that tells us to “do what makes us happy”, we have to remember that sometimes doing what is right doesn’t make us happy. It’s not about being happy all the time. In fact, I can guarantee you that if you make happiness a destination, you’ll never fully arrive. You’ll actually probably be the most miserable person on the planet. It’s a greedy and far from gratifying mentality.
Happiness is temporary and ever changing. It’s not consistent. It never will be. Imagine if we used this as a template for our relationships? My parents have been married for over 35 years. I can guarantee you, they haven’t always been happy. Relationships are hard work, even with the right person. No marriage would ever last based solely on this premise. So why are we implementing this as a standard for our lives? This standard causes us to meander through life, always searching for the next best thing. It’s exhausting, disheartening and ultimately leaves us feeling shallow and empty.
We set ourselves up for failure when we twist the concept of “loving ourselves” into accepting a state of complacency. The “take me as I am” state of mind can be dangerous. It can cause our growth to be stagnant and for our hearts to become arrogant. Yes, Jesus accepts us exactly as we are but if we accept Him for exactly who He is, it causes us to want to live differently. It causes us to want to bloom and be planted wherever He wants us to be. We are going to be constantly evolving and growing. We should be different than we were six months ago.
In this walk, you won’t always be happy. You may have some pretty difficult seasons. You may experience anger and sadness. You may grieve a loss. You may never make sense of something seemingly so senseless but you’ll have assurance that Someone so much bigger than you has a plan far beyond your understanding. You’ll find hope in the most hopeless of times. Through all the grit in life, there is so much grace.
Be content but never complacent. Work through the grit, embrace the grace and grow, grow, grow. 🌸